Divorce Process and Options in Geogia

Want it in plain English? This short video highlights the fundamentals of the divorce process and options within it in an engaging and animated way. Settlement, litigation, mediation and arbitration are highlighted.

Two Negotiation Steps People Forget (at the Drive-Thru)!

Image There is a problem.  A lack of  aligned interests.  A need for a solution.  

Whether figuring out which drive-thru everyone in the car will accept or settling the terms of a divorce, there are two steps most people forget when attempting to get to a resolution.

“Everyone” remembers to figure out what they want, right?  But, too often, the self-interests trump all other considerations in trying to reach a compromise.  (Rookies.)

The two other steps – critical, strategic steps! – that are too often overlooked in getting to an acceptable middle ground are all about the other person/side’s perspective:

1.  What offer CAN the other person accept?

and

2.  What reason should they say “yes” to your offer?

When these two additional steps are taken, a party is far more prepared to get a deal that they want than attempting simply to get everything (wishful thinking) that they want.

So, how does this work in the real world?  On your road trip with the kids, you anticipate the “fast food stop.”  The next Interstate Exit has a Wendy’s, a Subway, and a Burger King.  You, the adult driver, want to run through the Wendy’s Drive-Thru…but know that the kids are Whopper Junkies.  

So, how are you going to phrase this to get them to see things your way?  Give your “phrase” to win the kids over in the comments section below.

Men’s Divorce Recovery and Suicide

Divorce impacts nearly every aspect of individuals lives.  Given a choice between an IRS Audit and a Divorce – logic dictates the Audit every time!  Why?  The Audit only goes into the finances, not also monthly budgets, past-current-future purchases, parenting skills, the children’s futures and more.

The Huffington Post frequently includes articles about marital separation and divorce (kudos to them for mainstreaming it).  A recent article by a divorced father discusses the realities of divorce for a majority of men.  Noted in the article are great strategies for men to tackle divorce’s impacts, but also provides several compelling reasons for taking care.  One such reason is the statistically significant rate of suicide amongst male divorcees.

The bottom line is that this article is for everyone.  Those folks who are facing or recovering from divorce can easily isolate themselves – overwhelmed by the tasks at hand.  A caring friend or family member can pick up great tips in articles like these – it can make a major difference, potentially life altering.

Learn more about One Mediation and what it can do for families in transition at http://www.OneMediation.com.  One Mediation is a Georgia mediation firm that specialized in family law services, headquartered in Atlanta. 

We Aren’t Talking, So Can We Mediate Our Divorce?

This may come as a shock, but Divorce rarely involves two people who are communicating well, share the same motivations, or are not experiencing some degree of denial/hurt/anger.  As such, many times divorcing spouses at one point or another end up in a stalemate of not talking to one another for a variety of reasons:  conflict avoidance, the rut is better than another heated discussion, the status quo might be better than moving forward, etc.   It is common.

Divorce Mediation can be a “way out” of these kinds of ruts.  How does it work?

First, a mediator is trained to help parties who are in conflict work together towards a solution, even if they never speak directly to one another.

Second, a mediator can extend an invitation to mediate from one spouse to the other.  This “invitation” is particularly helpful in situations where parties may not (yet) have legal counsel, but the practical realities of the children, paying bills, etc. are “up in the air.”   These logistics can be pinned down, even if the ultimate issues of the divorce may be left for another day.

Third, divorce mediators are trained in conflict communication and, because they’ve dealt with these issues 100+ times more than you have, they have lots of ideas and options to help couples solve the real-world problems of separation and divorce.  Most spouses arrive at separation and divorce with no prior experience.  Mediators can help you avoid reinventing the wheel, help you formulate your questions for legal counsel if you are unrepresented, and more!

In a rut?  Contact a divorce mediator for an assessment of whether mediation is a viable option for your situation and, as is done at mediation firms like One Mediation in Atlanta, to extend an invitation to your spouse to mediate.