The Smart Divorce…thanks Ms. Moskovitch

There’s always good information to read out there.  I like the shorter stuff that is laden with nuggets that speak to you differently each time you read it.  “The Smart Divorce” by Deborah Moskovitch is just such a book.  At whatever stage of the grief cycle of divorce a person may be at (or recycling through), there is a word of wisdom for that person. 

In The Smart Divorce, much attention is paid to children in the divorce process.   One of the most potent facts about divorce and kids, for me, is included in this book – that is that the most significant, predictive factor regarding how well a child will adjust in a divorce is the amount of “conflict exposure” the child has experienced.  In other words, how much a child sees, hears, or experiences with respect to the divorce is incredibly detrimental – whether from the parents or from others.

This fact alone is one of the reasons that mediation for divorcing parents can be so powerfully positive to how “well” they separate.  Confidentiality within mediation is akin to skipping the tour on how sausage is made.  Where kids are a priority, separating parents should consider mediation as a primary means to protect and honor their kids’ needs.

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One Response to The Smart Divorce…thanks Ms. Moskovitch

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